It’s not always easy having a LDR. If you’re reading this, then you’re most likely in one yourself and you will understand this struggle as much as I do.
You live miles and miles apart from each other, cannot talk to or see your partner every day, you can’t just hug/kiss them whenever you feel like it and sometimes it can leave you feeling incredibly alone and terrible. Therefore, I have come up with my own tips and tricks on how to stay ‘sane’ in a LDR. Once again, just like I did with my ‘Tips for maintaining a LDR’ blog post, I want to make clear that not all of these tips will work for you. We can be similar in some ways but completely opposite in other ways. These tips and tricks have worked for me personally but I hope that you, can make use of at least most of them. So let’s go!
#1: Try to stay independent.
I know, it’s hard.. You don’t get to see each other every single day or even get to talk on a daily basis. However, don’t forget that this situation can give you so much power. Yes, you may want to spend every waking minute talking to your spouse, but instead; focus on your life outside of your LDR. You might have an education, a job or both at the same time. Focus on that. Don’t abandon your relationship completely but if you cannot talk to your partner that day, focus on your life. Why is this good? you might think. Because you’ll learn to become independent. So when you two do finally live together, you can do things without your partner. You don’t have to rely on them to make you feel good/succesful. Don’t become co-dependent.
#2: Ignore the haters.
If you’re in a LDR, you will know EXACTLY who I’m talking about. The haters, or the people who simply always got something bad to say about your relationship. Ignore each and every one of them!! First of all, it might make you question why you were in this LDR in the first place. Secondly, it’s not healthy to keep listening to all of that negativity. If you cannot ignore it, tell the people to either: mind their own business, or ask them kindly to refrain from making such comments all the time. Your relationship is YOUR business.
#3: Go out.
I don’t know if anybody else does this, but ever since I’ve been in this LDR I (sometimes) stay home all day just so I get to talk to TY for even a few minutes. In the very beginning of my LDR, I even cancelled all old plans and declined new plans, just so I could stay home all day for my boyfriend. UNHEALTHY!!! You should still go out, have fun without your partner. Socialize with other people other than your spouse. Do you!! One day without your partner won’t kill you and I’m sure it won’t kill him/her either 😉
#4: Reflect during bad times.
Sometimes, you just have a tiny moment where you might think to yourself: Why am I doing this? Can I do this? It’s usually a fleeting moment, but these thoughts CAN stick with you if you are going through a hard time. Usually, everything feels wrong or hard when you’re going through a hard time. You’re not a bad person for thinking like this, sometimes. Because, LDR’s aren’t easy! Not in the slightest! And certainly not everybody is cut out for it either. However, when in these types of moments.. Sit down, calm yourself and reflect on everything. Remember why you did this, remember what you’re doing this for, what your goals were, how happy your partner makes you feel and remember that it’s totally worth it. There IS light at the end of the tunnel. And I know, just as much as you, that’s it’s not always sunshine and roses. But it’s not impossible!
Now for this last tip/piece of advice, I don’t know how many people will relate to me when I type the next… But I daydream A LOT. At work, at home, when watching a movie, hell I even daydream when I’m on the toilet. Sometimes when I’m having a really hard time dealing with the distance between us and the time I still have left to wait before I can see him again, I’ll daydream about us. I’ll make up (sometimes) really weird and stupid scenarios. Or, really mushy and romantic stuff, or I’ll just daydream about what we did when we were together in Taiwan. I’ll daydream and I’ll feel a lot better. Because it’s something to look forward to. However, don’t portray your partner in a way that’s not at all accurate to what he or she is like. Or else you’ll make up this completely different persona out of your actual partner. Stay realistic haha. That counts for yours truly as well 😉
Thank you guys so much for reading this post. I hope you’re all doing well this week. I’m currently rendering another(!) video. I suspect it’ll be done rendering within the next hour or hour and a half. It’ll be my ‘Storytime video’ about my scariest paranormal expierence. I want to make sure before the video is actually up and running that if you do not like spooky stuff, you might not want to watch it. I am not sure how much spookiness you, as an individual, can take so I’ll warn beforehand 🙂
It is going to be a long video, once again but I just want to explain the length of my videos as well: I cannot, for the life of me, make short videos. Like, how can I explain to you guys, all the details and make the story sound right in less than 10 minutes or even 15 minutes. Hell, even in less than 30 minutes 😡
I hope you guys really don’t mind the long videos.. If you do, then I truly apologize. In any way, thanks for the support ♥ Always.